EVELYN M FIELD (FAPS)
(Author of 'Bully Blocking' and 'Bully Blocking at Work'
'Any communal tragedy, like a tsunami, flood or earthquake, is shared and managed. Stress may be high but so is support and assistance from many sources. Whereas the target of bullying feels that they are to blame in some way, despite bullying being cause by incompetent management. In addition, help is hard to obtain and validation is absent. No wonder many fear going to school or work.
BULLSEYE is a very comforting book for the reader, the stories show that they are not alone and that some people do care. It shows how bullying can leave traumatic scars that never fade. Finally, the reader can take away a message that next time, they can handle the situation differently and block the bullying.
DAVID (Teacher in the USA): I spent some time with 'Bullseye' and think that it's a powerful book for two reasons: it's poignantly real and it's in the voices of many people who were brave enough to share their story. This is a great book for those who have faced similar problems and will give strength to their voices. In as much as bullying is so timeless and so pervasive and takes on so many forms, it would be hard to write solutions for every problem inscribed. As a reader, I wanted to know more background of the victims, such as age, and situation. Also, it would be nice to revisit with the victims after 10 years and get again, in their own words, how they've come to grips as they've faced their memories of the bullying.
ELLEN REBMAN (Teacher and future school counsellor in the USA): I finished reading 'Bullseye' a few days ago. I found it to be very interesting reading although, again, some of the terminology was foreign to me. I guess that makes sense since it was a book about bullying in a foreign country. I found myself often wanting more information about the situation, but that is just the counsellor in me coming out. I can imagine that the counsellor response to this book would be great.
You know what is funny. I never really thought of myself as being bullied but after reading several of these cases they sounded really familiar so I guess I was. I was never physically or sexually abused by anyone but I have been teased, ostracised and made very uncomfortable in the workplace by co-workers and bosses. I guess I just pretty much chalked it up to a normal experience. Frustrating and sometimes depressing, but pretty normal. I guess that is just how I was raised. My mother always just told me I needed to get a 'thicker skin about things like that'. It was not considered bullying when I was in school unless something physical was happening. Cyberbullying is the thing that really worries me these days. It is causing so many problems and how is a parent, teacher or counsellor supposed to stop it?
I was really appalled by the lack of response by the schools in most of these cases and sometimes by the lack of response in some parents. Especially in the case where the girl was raped!! The police should haves been involved in that case as well as social services!
I am glad I read it and I think it is helpful as an eye-opener to me as a future school counsellor.
A MOTHER IN AUSTRALIA: I finished your heart wrenching book a couple of days ago and found I could not put it down. The sadness and intensity of each and every experience and the way the stories were worded.....
I do hope they and anyone else out there, gradually recovers and are able to lead better and more fulfilling lives.
My stories were nothing compared to these and were isolated incidents, yet very, very painful and unforgettable. I think for bullying to continue day after day, would be unimaginable.
After reading all the cases, I feel even stronger about the idea of a sequel, in which each case has a heppier, more positive ending.
Even though I haven't forgotten my experiences, I do believe in myself, am mostly positive and I've become slightly stronger when dealing with people who are only too ready to put others down. Avoidance is a good way, if possible.
Congratulations once again, you should be proud to have produced a book that will touch the hearts of many.
FROM ANOTHER MOTHER IN AUSTRALIA: The stories that are reflections and memories of a bullied childhood are very, very sad and quite a lot from small country towns.
I don't know that some of the adults interpretations of bullying may be confused with inadequate conflict resoluation skills, it is interesting to think the some see it as bullying. I also noticed that there is a lot of issues with regard to power and bullying the the medical/nursing fleid, also interesting (is this bullying or power/ego conflicts). Most of the other adults bullied were in lower socio-economic levels, ie a factory job and jobs requiring little education. There are just my observations of course.
Your comment in the introduction was quite a valid statement that 'the powers that be' do not seem to know how to deal with this terrible thing and therefore just brush it aside or under the rug, people are not getting the justice that they deserve. One comment I would like to make is that all these stories, even if some are about males, are from a female perspective, it would have been great to hear some male interpretations of their experiences, maybe Bullseye II?
Anyway, I think what you are doing is great and good therapy for a number of people.
FROM ONE OF THE CONTRIBUTORS: (It has been such an honour that you felt you could) share my story with others in an effort to bring attention to the problem in our society that is swept under the rug all too much. I hope the media and schools finally understand the issues around this topic, hopefully something can finally be achieved in this area. Believe me being part of your book has given me confidence that I never knew I had. I am now studying with the aim of becoming a counsellor or someone who helps kids deal with bullying and hopefully I can change one persons life with the sharing of my story, then everything is worth it.
FROM ANOTHER CONTRIBUTOR: Your book is great. Go for it - you have got great material!!
THE SACRAMENTO BOOK REVIEW: Lannah Sawers-Diggins has created an important and much-needed book on the subject of bullying from the viewpoint of the victims. Having been a victim, she is familiar with the territory. Bullying is fast reaching epidemic status in the US, with an extremely sad outcome. When children and teenagers find suicide as the only imaginable remedy, it's long past the time for the supposed adults to step in and find other solutions.
This slim book tells 36 case histories in the words of the victims. No real names of places are mentioned, the help protect the innocent, but the overall sadness will weigh you down. We must learn to believe the victims rather than perpetrators.